“I’m a parenting expert,” said no good parent.
I’ve read blogs and social media posts about parenting. I’ve talked to grandmothers, mothers, aunts and even kids about parenting. No one believes they have it right. No one thinks they are doing it perfectly. In fact, most people have empathy towards other fellow parents.
Parents have empathy, but we also have opinions. Here are a few of mine. Feel free to disagree and start a conversation.
- My kids don’t get choices about major life decisions until they can make rational decisions and choose my way without me forcing it. ha! Bottom line, they don’t get to choose much until they are 18 years old.
- Spanking is okay, but it doesn’t always work. Lucy has a huge pain threshold. Spanking usually doesn’t work with her.
- Routine keeps my kids sane… and me too.
- Preschool helps… a lot. I’m not saying it is 100% necessary, but it helps.
- Kids care about people more than stuff. Give them time more than things.
This brings me to the events that happened today. Caring for two toddlers is tough. It’s not easy. We are still in diapers with Lucy and Charlie doesn’t always make it to the potty on time. They both have nap times. Charlie has food allergies and he’s a picky eater. Lucy Jo eats all of the time. They can’t sit still very long. As you can imagine, keeping the kiddos at our house is the easiest space. We have all of our parenting tools at our fingertips at home.
Charlie started his life stuck in an incubator in the hospital. Lucy could not be in the sun during chemo. We didn’t fight for their lives to stay in the house. We can’t give them all of the memories they could get in their lifetime stuck in the four walls of our house. As difficult as it is, Marc and I ventured out for some one-on-one time with our kids.
Charlie and Marc went to a Springfield Cardinals baseball game.
Lucy and I watched Finding Dory at the movie theater. We ended our outing at McDonalds.
Yes, it’s difficult. Yes, they try our patience and we usually sweat — literally and mentally.
It was all worth the effort when Lucy gave me a hug before bed and said, “thank you Mama.”
Last opinion: parenting does not mean being like a hermit.